♥ ♥ Break Up Community to Help you STOP Your Break Up or Recover From Breaking Up

"I'm new to this site and stumbled across it when my girlfriend and I broke up five weeks ago. Just reading some of your posts has been really helpful in coping with my loss and it's comforting to know that so many of you out there are going through the same pain that I'm experiencing." ~DaveC

"Welcome to all that are new to this forum. You may not realize it yet, but by finding this site, you are already on your way to recovery." ~a member

"We all understand the pain and suffering that you are going through. We have all been there or we wouldn't be here. Everyone that is here is at a different stage of healing. Some are just beginning the long journey, and some have completely recovered and are here to offer support and guidance, and all that are somewhere in between." ~a member

"What you will find from this site: everyone here has been or is in your shoes, everyone is trying to help, offer encouragement, offer suggestions, tell of their experiences to help guide others from making the same mistakes, provide a shoulder to cry on." ~a member

"I am happy that I found this site yesterday. I know that I will visit it often as I need a place like this to go. I have learned so much from it already. Thanks for being here." ~a member

"This site can be a lifeline in a time of need. You will find people here that are in different stages of healing. we are all here for you, you need this board!" ~a member

"I was surfing the net in search of the answers that I was not able to get from him. That was the day that I joined this community. A true God send! I read and re-read the webBooks, I posted asking for advice, I received advice which I now understand why was the best possible advice that I could have received." ~Rising Up "There is such value in reading the stories that others post here." ~a member

"This site is a wonderful place and I appreciate you being there. I often may only have a couple of minutes to visit but I look to this group as a safe place to retreat and to say "I am scared", "I am sad", "I am confused", "I am feeling bad today", "I need a hug", or to tell you when something goes well, too. I think of it when I am feeling bad and cannot wait to stop in. I am glad that I found you here. I have no one else to turn to. This is exactly the place that I needed to find. Thank you!" ~a member

"Tomorrow I will be alone. I hope that I can stay busy and not get depressed over her. I feel ok though because I can come here and post and/or read some from the library of webBooks. It really is good to know that you all are here - that I have a place to go. Before finding this site, I had no place to go and no one to talk to. I appreciate finding this site. I appreciate your posts and support. Thanks for caring." ~a member

"I am so happy to have found this place to come and share, talk, read, and basically not feel so alone. You guys have been wonderful to talk to and I appreciate all of you being there. Your words and friendship mean so much to me. I have been very busy this week at work and have not been able to get here until now, but I have thought of this site, and this board and how good it feels to be here and to talk to you. Before finding this site, the loneliness and fear, and the feeling, at times, that I had no place to turn was dreadful." ~Trezures

"This place has been wonderful, there were times where I really felt like you guys really knew me, and it was such a wonderful experience to know that I wasn't alone. I had some rough times, but the advice, and kind words I received greatly helped." ~Isabella

"This site has been a godsend to me and has helped me through a very difficult period. I have learned so much from all of you. I have especially learned how many good, kind, caring people are out there - people who will offer so much support and friendship to complete strangers." ~Free At Last

"I found this site yesterday and have already gained so much from reading some of the information and posts. I was sure that somewhere on the internet there had to be a place to come when you needed to talk (not pickup people) and receive constructive comments from people who may have been through similar situations. This seems to be the place. " ~Linnie

"I'm new to this site, having stumbled upon it yesterday after stumbling upon Tigress Luv's web book while looking for internet material on relationship breakups. Like several other people have mentioned, I'm very impressed and appreciative of everyone on here, and the chance to express heartfelt feelings without being ridiculed or judged. Ordinarily, I keep most things to myself, but it really does help to get feedback from others who are going -- or who have gone -- through the same thing. In fact, I was taken back as I read the posts here how many other people are suffering through emotional upheavals because of broken relationships."
- Dave

Dear Tigress Thank you for setting this wonderful community I must say I am amazed and have learnt so much in regards to letting go of the past and living now. The people here are fantastic and reading others stories and the similarities are freaky but the outcomes seem the same, the advise members give are great and to have an input is great too, I have had a difficult time myself and have managed to get through. I so wished I knew about this site before as the pain of getting through would have been shared and so less hurtful.

Thank you again, your books have been inspirational and helped me enormously, made me think of the situation I have let myself get into and how to get out and let go.

Two Keys to Surviving a Breakup: Resources and Support

Relationships are easy to enter, hard to maintain, and painful to leave. The first blush of interest and attraction fuels the passion that ultimately leads to commitment. In the midst of a relationship, all sorts of things can go wrong, from the failure to communicate or taking the other person for granted, to infidelity or abuse. The breakup is heart wrenching for both people, regardless of who initiated the break up and even when there is good reason to split. That's why, whether you're on the verge of breaking up, in the throes of separation, or recovering from heartbreak, it's important to spend the time necessary to heal. The best thing you can do to help this process along involves finding the right support and resources.

Books are Wonderful Resources

Whether your goal is to mend a broken heart, win an ex back and get back together, or to simply move on with your life, you can be sure that others have traveled the same path. Because a breakup can make you feel lost, it's extremely helpful to rely on the advice and experiences of others to put you on the path to healing.

For example, if your boyfriend (or girlfriend) left you - and played the blame game in the process - it's natural to feel unlovable and at fault. Yet, if you look at the situation from the perspective that he or she left because of his or her own dysfunctional psychological issues, you can more clearly see that it's really not about you, and you can more freely move on with your life.

On the other hand, perhaps you contributed to the break up of the relationship. Perhaps you didn't express your appreciation and gratitude often enough, or maybe you didn't give your relationship the priority it deserved. It could be that, instead of tending to your relationship garden, both of you were busy doing other things while the weeds took over. If your heart tells you that your relationship is worth fighting for (not fighting over!), a book can help you navigate the waters of getting back together.

Support is Essential

Few breakups happen overnight, so getting the support you need throughout the process is essential. When it comes to breaking up, help yourself by expressing your feelings and reaching out to others. Writing about your feelings, asking others to listen to you vent, seeking out advice, and reading about the experiences of others are all tools that can help you mourn your loss, regain your sense of self, and move on with your life.

Online Support and Resources

A breakup is one of life's most momentous events, but the people who are closest to you are often not very objective. After all, they may have their own agendas in pushing you toward one course of action or away from another, or perhaps they care too much to cause you any further pain.

When you go online, though, you can find sites that provide both a wealth of downloadable books and support-oriented discussion boards. Instant access to books can be a lifesaver, and discussing your situation and reading about those of others can give you the one-day-at-a-time approach that will see you though every stage of the breakup process. The best sites even have breakup blogs, where you can journal your thoughts and feelings, and can read others' stories.

A breakup is extremely difficult, but you don't have to go it alone. Whether your goal is to mend a broken heart or get back together, find the online support and resources you need.

To read our ebooks about breakup and to gain support throughout your breakup journey please join our support site at: http://liftedhearts.com

Two Keys to Surviving a Breakup: Resources and Support

Your Relationships—Both With Yourself and With Others—Will Improve Dramatically!

Your Relationships—Both With Yourself and
With Others—Will Improve Dramatically!